B. So you do have many friends that are guys but none of them want anything more than just being friends, right? I know that you feel like you want a boyfriend but isn't it just so much fun to be single and with your girlfriends? (paraphrasing and questioning)
C. You don't really hate them. I think you just don't like being left alone and there is no way to show that so you say you hate them. (analyzing)
D. I can see that you are sick of school and that you don't feel like you are doing anything with your life. I sometimes feel that way too but I just keep going and doing what I feel is the right thing to do. (supporting)
E. Maybe you should try to focus more on serving him and showing him in all the ways you can think of that you still love him and that you want to make it work. You just need to talk to each other and see what is going on before you leap and do something you may regret. (advising)
F. So you think that your boss is mad at you and you think this because he doesn't joke around with you anymore and he doesn't talk about your work as much. Perhaps you should ask him if he is mad at you or if you did anything to offend him. (paraphrasing and advising)
In this exercise, I realized how many different ways there are to deal with a problem or someone else's situation. There are so many different ways to listen and try to help but sometimes, one kind works better than another. I see that I use advising response more than I do the other kinds and I was trying to use different kinds so that I didn't use the same one but I use advising more than I do the others because I want to be helpful, not just sit and listen but sometimes, all the other person wants is someone to listen and be sympathetic. I think it is a very good thing if I can sit and listen and help them feel better even if I don't tell them exactly what to do or how to get out of that situation.
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