Positive:
1) When to clean the house.
2) Caitlyn doesn't clean her part of the house or do the dishes that she made dirty, but rather leaves them in the sink for someone else to do.
3) I come in and see the dirty dishes that she has left and I get very annoyed and start slamming dishes into the dishwasher. She comes in and sees me doing them. I start to talk to her about doing her dishes again. She tears them from my hands and does them herself because she thinks it is stupid of me to get upset.
4) I feel bad and so I help her and we do them together.
5) I think that I could change the conflict by going and asking her nicely to do her dishes instead of just starting to do them and then get mad at her when she comes out so that way, she does them and I feel better about myself and her.
Negative:
1) who gets to take the car.
2) I get offensive and think that it is my turn to take the car but then she gets irritated back because she is the older one and should be taking the car anyway.
3) I want to take the car somewhere and she does as well and so we both fight about it, both thinking that we are the right one.
4) Mom has to get involved and someone ends up angry.
5) I think I could have helped with the conflict by trying to come up with a compromise or something where we both win and Mom doesn't have to get involved.
I think that by doing this exercise, I am able to see that there are some rituals that we, as sisters have, that work when we get into arguments and sometimes, there are better ways to handle a difficult situation. I know that from this exercise, I can make any situation a positive one if I think of a new way to handle our "ritual."
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